With you there in every way.

Really…what’s your definition of a long time, Pat? another season or two, because by then there will only be a handful of people watching the show…
and now regarding your theory, I do agree that both of them are damaged, emotionally…Sarah much more than Chuck, but I think that calling them teenagers(even emotionally) is really extreme and somewhat insulting.
The only reason that the creators are portraying them in that manner(sometimes, and every time it’s displayed it throws you right out of the fluency of the episode) is that this is the only way Schwartz knows how to portray relationships; O.C and Gossip girl style, nothing mature.
and so it always come back to this, in spite of the writers best wishes.

It is interesting to hear all the comments about the Chuck and Sarah relationship. I often hear people say that “two adults would not act like Chuck and Sarah.” Actually, I agree, but I don’t consider Chuck and Sarah adults, emotionally.

If you look at their back stories, it is easy to conclude for both characters that they did not have the “normal” upbringing that most people have. So when you state adults would not act in this manner, I don’t think Chuck and Sarah fall into that category.

So far, after Stanford, Chuck appeared to not have been in any deep relationships before he met Sarah. He stated in Season 1-episode 2 to Sarah that, “this is the best SECOND date that I have had in years.” Hearing that comment seem to conclude that the five years between Stanford and meeting Sarah that he had very little experience with relationships and women. Dealing with relationships, like anything, require experience and it appears that Chuck really doesn’t have that much experience with how to interact with women.
Also, his interaction with Jill could leave many men broken. Chuck believed that his girlfriend dumped him and slept with his best friend in college? I think it would take a while for most men to get over that event.

Sarah, actually, I think is even a more extreme example where it appeared throughout her whole life, before the C.I.A., she had very little interaction with people. She was often traveling from town to town very seldom getting to interact with young men and have even any friendships. Even her relationship with Bryce Larkin seemed based more on physical satisfaction than emotional depth. She believed that Bryce betrayed her which did not help her development. Also, when you consider the type of father she had, it is very easy to be very nontrusting of people. I am amazed she is relatively “normal” after all her experiences in life. Obviously, all these events contributed to her detachment and having trouble opening up and trusting people.

So, when you see this “back and forth” nature of their relationship, I don’t think it is unrealistic when you consider the two characters. People say they act as teenagers, but emotionally they really are. They haven’t experienced the normal development that adults have to have healthy relationships. I think it will take a long time before they both develop the emotional experience and depth to deal with each other as adults. I think that is why the writers and directors portray them in the teenage manner.